It isn’t that I am no longer loyal or reliable—I now realize that I am not only still loyal and reliable but I am also adaptable, resilient, productive, able to solve problems as they are thrown my way, and focused on performing my job responsibilities while also doing my part to support the freedoms of our nation.
It isn’t that I am misguided—I now realize that my work habits and values are extremely important to me and that my time and energy are best spent putting them to action than trying to deflect negativity from those who question, diminish, or challenge them.
It isn’t that I am starting over—I now realize that I am very aware of my professional interests, abilities, and value and can make an immediate contribution when the door of opportunity finally opens. When doors don’t open as fast as I want them to, I move on more quickly and brush off the people who are more interested in pushing me down than lifting me up.
I don’t want to give my time or energy to allow other people’s perceptions negatively influence my identity anymore. My identity is mine and my military life may have caused me to question it but in the process, I have discover that my military life has actually enhanced my identity and my ability to stand up for myself. I am very proud to say that I am a military spouse and I am very proud of who I am as a professional—those who support me the way I am or open their doors to me also see that my military life has made me a better, stronger, more capable, and more driven professional.
If you struggle with professional identity crisis, you are not alone. Although there may not be a military spouse nearby who can ease you of your crisis, there are many spouses out there who are also struggling to find clarity and confidence. Reach out to other spouses because you may be surprised where you find your next source of support.
