Just Like Everyone Else
Of course, these spouses face some of the traditional challenges associated with being a military spouse. How many of you have felt lost in your spouse’s career? Eric is right there with you!
“It’s hard to maintain any type of professional career. Just over a year ago I graduated with my bachelor’s degree and promptly got a job in my field of study. Then my wife was promoted and our plans changed. She decided to stay in instead of get out of the service and I had to quit my job. I wish I had a more portable and marketable set of job skills.”
And Alicia, half of a same-sex couple, will give the same advice that any other wife would. Communication is key!
“We learned early on that if we have a problem, even if it can’t be corrected right away, we need to talk about it. Even if we don’t agree with each other or with what is going on within the command, at least we both know what is happening and are not blindsided.”
Sounds like what Nick had to say…
“Always take time to keep your relationship with your spouse strong as you will likely have to navigate a deployment or two during the time in service. If you have children, make sure that their needs are met but DON’T neglect your spouse. And be active in your spouse’s work/interests (and vice versa) so that they feel like they are part of a team. It will help them understand why you’re away so much if you are able to discuss it.”
And any spouse, no matter what category they fall in to, can agree with Molly’s advice:
“Don’t take each other and the time you get together for granted.”
We all face challenges being part of the military community, but we have to remember that we are ALL a part of that community. We are one giant, sometimes dysfunctional family. So be there for each other. Support the new spouse who has never heard a military acronym before. Don’t make dad feel weird because he’s the one at play group. Help that dual military wife who is coming into town for homecoming. If we want to break the stereotype of military spouses then it’s up to us to embrace our differences.
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