I sit writing this piece in the passenger seat of my parked car. My “military child” (as they often use to identify themselves to strangers) is sleeping. They have been awake since 3 o’clock this morning (which is not uncommon). And, it is Mother’s Day and my active duty spouse is working. This is a normal day—and was such before the Age of Corona.
In addition, I telecommute; and, even though I work for a paycheck—and still on Mother’s Day (again, not unusual)—I think of the military spouse who does the same—with or without a paycheck—and in duty to their military spouse’s schedule.
These are the members who drag themselves out of bed each morning or night (whichever they are required) and attend to those who need their assistance. They have no time to finish all that they aim to accomplish in the house, with family, with friends, or with themselves. They long to accomplish more—or anything—but are in frequent call to attend to the needs of others. They seek to be a part of the world but find it hard to do such.
News readings are more like quick glances or hearings—if that—and thoughts and dreams of great Instagram or Facebook craze ideas go unheard or unseen. These are the military spouses who are positioned in the shadows of their honored active duty spouse. They receive no appreciate on Military Spouse Appreciation Day nor know of its existence.
In further description, these are the military spouses who made face masks for their friends before such became suggested or mandatory and did not receive a headline or attain public glory. They work silently themselves (or teach little ones) to show kindness to those who assist with everyday societal upkeep, especially during this time, but who are usually rarely thanked. They work alone as their spouse is away for months, taking each day one step at a time, one breathe at a time.
I thank the military spouse whose dreams are ignored but not void. Your good deeds cannot be undone and there is recognition of your value. This piece is for you. Thank you for finding the ability to make it through the day. You are my hero. You are a military spouse ninja.
