I realize that not everyone who thinks marriage at a young age is a good idea is emotionally mature enough to handle the hardships guaranteed by saying “I, do.” I can only voice this caution: you have to be honest with yourself and your partner and evaluate all possible situations. You are the only one who can adequately identify your feelings, your abilities, and the things you will gain versus the things you will have to give up by tying the knot.
All in all we are all unique and so are our situations. At eighteen I had life experiences under my belt that most forty-year olds don’t have. I made the best decision regarding my situation and I’ve only reaped the rewards thus far. I graduated from college with honors, I own my own successful business, my husband is a college graduate with a successful military career, and together we have a created a loving family life. Marriage is a serious commitment and the decision to marry should likewise be treated seriously.
It is my hope that rather than be quick to call down the predictions of doom and endless woe upon those who will or have been married at an age younger than the national norm, that we preach gentle words of caution yet optimism and offer our support. If we constantly scream failure then failure will ensue; yet, if we offer words of wisdom, optimism, and helping hands we can help our fellow spouses succeed in fortifying our military family.
I know my story is only one of many successful “young love,” stories so let’s hear yours! How old were you when you got married to your service member and how long have you been married?
