Point 4: Our desire for attention outweighs our desire to be loved and
Point 5: Social media just invited a few thousand people into bed with you.
Why I agree: I’m combining these two points because they’re essentially the same issue. A lot of people are addicted to social media. There are a lot of women on my Facebook newsfeed for example, posting multiple selfies or status updates a day and this can lead to someone paying more attention to social media, and how many likes they get, than to their personal relationships. This plays into the problem in general of caring more about what others think about you than what your own spouse does. Same goes for over-sharing on social media, not every fight and/or occurrence in your marriage should be shared on social media as this invites other people to look into your marriage and give an opinion, which honestly is neither healthy nor none of their business.
Why I disagree: To be honest on this one, I don’t. Posting once in awhile to social media is one thing, I do it myself, but when someone is posting multiple times a day, every day, you have to wonder if they could be spending more time paying attention to and participating in their lives, rather than telling others about it.
How to prevent: Quite simply, choose to put down the phone, computer, tablet, etc., and live your life more than you tell others about it. When you’re out with your spouse on a vacation or a date, enjoy the moment instead of trying to perfectly capture it so you can share it with others. Maybe bring an actual camera instead of your phone on vacation or your date, so you still take photos, but share them with other people later. If you’re an over-sharer, maybe take a moment to decide if what you’re about to post about your marriage or life on social media is something you would tell a stranger. If it’s not, call a friend instead of sharing it with the world.
There is no guarantee when you say “I do” for a happily ever after. Marriage is something you have to choose to work on every single day. However, I do honestly believe that if you choose to safeguard your marriage from potential roadblocks and always “try” at it, your marriage will never just “not work anymore.”
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