#1 Set Boundaries.
During transitions and deployments, “It’s easy for structure to go out the window,” says Marine Corps spouse Cher Scott. And this increases stress for EVERYONE.
If family rules and routines have lapsed at your house, it’s time to get back to business. A predictable schedule and clear expectations diminish uncertainty. Maintain as consistent of a routine as much as possible.
#2 Take a Break.
When you’re overloaded with other tasks, kids may act out to get your attention, Scott says. Hire a sitter or send the kids to a friend’s house for a few hours so you can reenergize.
Calling in reinforcements DOESN’T mean you’re shirking your responsibilities as a parent.
Remember: The kids need a break from you, too.
#3 Take a Blink.
Maybe you can’t catch a break in the heat of the moment. That’s ok. Aim for a blink instead.
Close your eyes and take a deep breath to re-center yourself so you don’t snap in frustration. “You can always go back later to discuss what happened, but you cannot erase the damage you may
do if you react without thinking,” says Walfish.
Reflect BEFORE you respond.
#4 Divide and Conquer.
If family members are picking fights with each other, it may be time for a cooldown. “Ask everyone to separate and find a solo activity,” says Walfish. Solitary activities minimize the chance of friction.
Walfish recommends calling this a “cool down” instead of a “time out” so kids don’t think they’re being punished.
