Deployment is looming: One spouse has only been married for a few months, is living in a town where she hasn’t really connected with any other spouses yet, she is expecting her first baby during this deployment and doesn’t want to go it alone, and she misses her family and friends back home fiercely. She doesn’t want to seem like she is running back to Mom and Dad when things get a little bit rough, but if she moves back home they can save a ton of money in BAH that would set them up nicely as a new family. She is still not sure though and is having a hard time making a decision that many spouses have considered:
“Should I Move Home During Deployment?”
There are lots of things to consider when making this decision, and what may be right for one person will not work for another. Let’s take a look at a few things to think about before you make that move (or choose to stay put).
This is a big one. Do you have a support system in place at your service member’s current duty station? If not, it might be a wise choice to make the move to a place where you know there is family or friend support. This can be especially true for someone who is expecting a new baby, has small children or has a medical issue that requires support you might not feel comfortable asking a stranger to assist with.
Just be aware that support from family and friends who do not have experience as a military family can take you by surprise. It is possible that they won’t fully understand what you are going through, and that can make things complicated and tiresome. Of course there are families who have zero military-life experience but are still able to be the support you are looking for. Only YOU know the dynamic of your extended family and friends.
Also be aware that being near a military installation during a deployment can offer a level of support you may not be able to find elsewhere. Your spouse’s unit has a family readiness program (they differ in name depending on branch). Many times they will arrange monthly activities so that families can get support from one another and communicate information. In addition, bases may offer free childcare programs, volunteer opportunities or personal development courses during deployment. If you haven’t been in touch with them before now, consider reaching out to see what is available on base before making your decision. Military spouses who are going through the same thing you are going through can be a valuable asset during a deployment.