3. SEEK OUTSIDE HELP
I’m a strong supporter of marriage counseling , even when your marriage is going well.
I believe that having regular check-ups is good for a marriage. It gives both parties a chance to discuss what they may have been holding in and to make sure both people are still on the same page about the big things.
If you’ve got a trusted counselor or pastor, setting up a few post-deployment sessions with them may be what you need to make sure the transition is a smooth one.
Service members returning from deployment are changed people. It doesn’t matter what type of deployment it is, how long it is, or where the member was deployed to, they are going to come home different than they were when they left.
Their life on deployment was SO different and things they may have seen or done will leave a lasting impact. Being able to talk to someone who’s whole job is to help people, will ensure that both of you understand that change isn’t always a bad thing and they can help you learn how to cope with the new normal that will come post-deployment.
