So… Which Way Do We Go?
There are valid arguments for both directions. Until we can fully appreciate the reasons why we want and need spouse clubs, how they will balance power, and how they will function within the constraints of military policies, we should not make a universal decision moving forward. Although I would have loved to end this article with an irrefutable argument for doing away with separated clubs, I recognize that there is more discussion necessary.
Even though I cannot embrace one position, I will share what I have come to embrace throughout my research:
- We don’t have this figured out by any means! This is a very complex and very sensitive topic.
- We cannot change the hierarchy structure of the military.
- As long as we call ourselves by “enlisted spouse” or “officer spouse” we are creating separation and giving ourselves rank.
- My needs and opinions are based on my unique experience and if I am to understand the needs and opinions of others, then I need to ask because I cannot walk in their shoes.
- Spouses want and need spouse clubs for a number of different reasons. (I know I had different perspectives and needs throughout my different stages!)
- Understanding those wants and needs will help us to decide if combined clubs will fit the bill.
So… I am not so sure anymore that combined clubs are the way to go – at least yet.
What do you think? Be a part of the conversation and share your thoughts in the comments section or open a respectful discussion in your local spouse club.
