2. Lower your expectations
Like I said at first, don’t expect that first time after a deployment to be nothing but electricity and heat. There’s a lot of potential for awkwardness. I’m not suggesting you commit to a life of celibacy once they return, but remember what the first few times were like when you were unexperienced and allow that transition to happen again.
Don’t be offended if it takes some time developing the skill of passionate love-making again. Just like the two of you have learned how to live without each other in your day-to-day lives, you haven’t been routinely practicing in bed together. It’s not going to necessarily be easy right away. Have some fun practicing again. Don’t be offended if your spouse has to learn your cues all over again. Pretend like you’re starting from square one and enjoy learning about each other’s likes and dislikes again.
