2.Detach from your emotions
Another tool for regaining self-control is separating yourself from your emotions.
Instead of thinking, “I’m angry,” name your emotion by thinking “I am feeling angry.” This might seem trivial, but it’s necessary to create that gap.
Labeling your emotion, rather than labeling yourself, separates you from negativity… so you can think and respond more clearly.
Army mom, Kate, agrees. “Instead of getting swallowed up by my own anger,” says Kate, “I could actually focus on my child and what he was trying to tell me.”
Successfully detaching from the negative emotion can help you avoid becoming overly upset and taking your children’s anger against you personally.
This, in turn, allows you to respond with love and understanding.
According to Frazier, being able to detach ourselves from our own emotions so we can respond rather than react is the master key of parenting.