Does this only happen to male military spouses?
Of course not.
It happens to everyone. Even female spouses!
Someone had a bad experience with a group and after realizing it had been eight years, they still were hesitant to return.
Others also felt that there are “cliques” in groups which also creates another barrier that doesn’t even involve male military spouses.
They are there, but sometimes we are so used to being around them we don’t notice it. Only when someone is new to the group can see it and point it out can we make those changes.
When I was the 1st Vice President of the Oakleaf Club of Tidewater, I made it a point to welcome anyone and everyone to our events! I’m 6’5” and 250 lbs so yes, I can be a tad bit intimidating, but I do love to talk and to meet new people!
I want the family that recently moved to our area to feel welcomed and accepted and if they need anything to make their stay a bit more enjoyable, to please let us know.
Now that’s how you give great first impression!
After lots of discussions throughout Facebook pages pertaining to last month’s article, many people agreed that this topic needs to be talked about.
So, let’s talk about it- in the open – so that everyone can chime in.
It was clear to me that others have noticed that there is not only a barrier when it comes to men being accepted and welcomed at a command group or function, but also women that have recently moved into the area.
If and when they do attend a group or function, will you be the one that gives them that first impression of what your group/organization is all about? Or will you hope that someone else will do it?
Maybe giving that person a great first impression will result in them giving a great first impression at the next meeting or event- to the next new family.
I encourage groups and functions to be welcoming and accepting, because you’ll never know what great opportunities a person could have brought to the table if they turn away.
