11) “My doctor can treat me like poo, because, after all, it’s free healthcare.” Always advocate for quality healthcare for yourself and your family.
10) “We will never live THERE.” Your orders will be cut the next month.
9) “Military Wife” Our community has a mix of men and women now… the modern term is “Military Spouse”!
8) “All enlisted spouses are just uneducated.” Or any other generalization about an entire group from our community. Again, stereotypes suck and there is just no place for them.
7) “My friend’s service member calls her once a day during deployment… my spouse should have no excuse.” Not all service members like to communicate in the same way or have the same access to comms that someone else might have. Stop comparing.
6) Never, ever post troop movements on Facebook or other social media sites. Loose lips CAN sink ships, and you don’t want to be the spouse that keeps a unit deployed an extra week because you didn’t follow OPSEC rules!
5) “You can’t be upset your spouse is gone for two weeks… try a seven month deployment.” One person’s challenges should never negate the feelings another might have about their own experience. Separation can be hard on families… not matter how long, or short.
4) “Congress would never allow military benefits to be cut. There is nothing to worry about.” We should all be paying attention. Stay informed. Make sure you cast your vote!
3) “We knew what we were getting into, there is nothing to complain about.” In fact, most military spouses had no clue what they were getting into… and even if we did, it doesn’t make this life any easier. (“You Knew What You Were Getting Into When You Married Him”)
2) “I don’t need help.” Everyone needs help at some point in life. There is nothing wrong with asking, nothing at all.
1) “Being a Military Spouse is the toughest job in the military.” Yes, we realize some service members are so very appreciative of what their spouse does to hold down the home front and they will, on occasion, say this. BUT we wish spouses would stop saying it, please. Being a military spouse can be incredibly challenging, but playing the “I have it worse than you do” game benefits no one.