No Result
View All Result
Military Spouse
  • Life
    • Moving
    • News
    • Discounts
  • 2021 MSFE
  • Milspouse-owned
  • Employment
    • Military Spouse Careers
  • Education
  • Magazine
    • Digimag
    • Subscribe
  • Money & More
    • Navy Mutual
  • Resources
Military Spouse
No Result
View All Result

My First Year as a Military Wife

Guest Author by Guest Author
in Spouse 101
0

The bathroom is hard to give up.

I joke about it, but really, the hardest change when it came to being married was suddenly sharing a bathroom. I hadn’t shared a bathroom with another person since the communal ones of college– and that was just with a bunch of girls on my floor. I had never shared a bathroom with a dude. Ever. John’s not a messy guy, but one day last summer, when John went to work, I sat in the bathroom and cried. Like a pansy, I know. I just had never realized I would have to give up having a bathroom to myself when we got married– it never crossed my mind. (Now, go ahead and laugh. I know it’s a silly thing!)

We’re a family already.

“Thinking about starting your family?” It’s a common question we get– especially when we’re meeting new people who hear that we’re newlyweds. In the military community, it can feel like we’re not a legitimate family– after all, there are tons of families (some with parents younger than we are) with cute kids. We’re not sure what will happen with children– but we’re not feeling pressured to make the decision any time soon. We’re already a complete family.

I’m really, really glad I hyphenated.

Before we got married– before we were even dating– I had made the decision that I wouldn’t solely take my husband’s last name (if I happened to ever get married, that is). But it was really hard for me to decide what my last name would be. Should I keep my last name entirely? Hyphenate? Do something different like combine them both? Use my maiden name as a second middle name?

After a lot of tears (I’m sorry, I’m a crier!) and soul-searching, I made the decision to hyphenate my last name. I may have raised some eyebrows (I’d like to think society is more advanced than that), and I may have  to deal with some annoying stuff when it comes to records or the way people write it, but I am so glad that I hyphenated. It’s the perfect way to honor and merge both of my identities and families– the one that raised me and the one that I married into. It’s a name that I’m really proud of (if you type my name into Google, I’m literally the only person in the entire world with it) and one that we’re both comfortable with and protective of.

Be awesome.

The first year of marriage goes by fast. Don’t sit back and let it happen. Go do stuff. Have fun. Be awesome – have a year worth remembering.

Read Next: Four Responses When You’re Criticized for Getting Married Young

Page 3 of 3
Prev123
Previous Post

Don’t Ask, Don’t Tell: The Kids of Same-sex Parents

Next Post

Celebrate Your Military Love

Next Post
Celebrate Your Military Love

Celebrate Your Military Love

Please login to join discussion

Recommended

Why a Stay-at-Home Parent Needs Life Insurance

Why a Stay-at-Home Parent Needs Life Insurance

2 days ago
Why You Should Buy Life Insurance When You Are Young

Why You Should Buy Life Insurance When You Are Young

2 days ago
What Happens to Email Accounts When Someone Dies

What Happens to Email Accounts When Someone Dies

2 days ago
Life Insurance for Children

Life Insurance for Children

2 days ago

Terms of Use
Our Team
Media Kit
Advertise
Newsletter
Submit an Article
Contact Us
Privacy Policy
Compliance

December 2020

Life

Employment

Education

News

Discounts

Moving

Sitemap

  • Life
  • 2021 MSFE
  • Milspouse-owned
  • Employment
  • Education
  • Magazine
  • Money & More
  • Resources

Copyright 2020 Military Spouse

Terms of Use | Advertise | Contact Us | Privacy Policy | Compliance

No Result
View All Result
  • Life
    • Moving
    • News
    • Discounts
  • 2021 MSFE
  • Milspouse-owned
  • Employment
    • Military Spouse Careers
  • Education
  • Magazine
    • Digimag
    • Subscribe
  • Money & More
    • Navy Mutual
  • Resources

© 2021 JNews - Premium WordPress news & magazine theme by Jegtheme.