Why as women are we so hard on ourselves? I feel like women go out of their way to try so hard to be so many things, a great wife/military spouse, a caring mom, an empathetic friend, a driven employee, etc.
Yet, we are often plagued with the feeling that regardless of how hard we try to be all these things, we are still falling short. We could still do more, be more, be better.
For military spouses, there’s a whole other side to this self abuse, too.
We tell ourselves we should be stronger, we should be more adaptable, we should be more outgoing, we should be more independent, we should be less scared, we should be…so many things that maybe we’re not.
Sure, it’s a healthy thing to want to improve ourselves, but it’s not a healthy thing to berate or doubt ourselves. That inner voice antagonizing us doesn’t lead us into healthy self-improvement, it leads us to feeling bad about ourselves. To feeling like we’re not enough, like we’ll never do enough or be enough.
But you know what?
Since that day, feeling like that is no longer good enough for me.
I deserve more.
You deserve more.
We ALL deserve acceptance from ourselves.
I’m here to tell you that although sure, you could be so many things, you could also just be yourself.
You could just be who you are, right now, at this moment, with all your wonderful qualities, your imperfections and your flaws.
It’s an empowering thought, freeing even.
You don’t need to be thinner. You don’t need to be stronger. You don’t need to be smarter, prettier or better in any way.
You can just be the amazing, beautiful and complicated being that is YOU.
And that person, that person that you are right now, right at this moment, she is amazing and she is MORE THAN ENOUGH.
